Intimacy

Why is the word "intimate" synonymous with sex? Funny and true thing is that partners/couples/lovers (whatever) can have sex without being intimate at all. Let me venture off to the world of sex real quick (no pun intended--lol). There are 3 basic types of sex. Number one "bumpin' uglies"--the no holding anything back, loud, hot, adrenaline rush of all rushes--when each person's drive is like an annoying itch that hasn't been scratched for days. Number two "having sex"--the don't really know what to expect, hesitant, just going with the flow, kinda sorta holding back, less energetic form of sex. This form is usually associated with sex with either a new partner or someone who doesn't know what they're doing. Number three "love making"--the slow, touchy-feely, sensual, teasy, unselfish, generous, simultaneous and reciprocal form. Now that I've defined the three, lemme go back to intimacy and define it. An intimate act is any act that can be more attributed to a specific person, rather than the act itself; something close, personal, and something which you cannot receive from another person. Now, it's clear why types I and II of sex have nothing to do with intimacy at all. Number three is dependent on it however. Now back to my original question. Sex and intimacy are kind of hand-in-hand as far as the general public is concerned. Yet, contrary to my earlier definitions and explainations, I believe that intimacy can be present even without the sex. I have yet to encounter this myself, but nevertheless have faith that the phenomenon exists. Most people would say that the most intimate act is sex. However, I don't believe this to be necessarily true because as humans sometimes we often confuse emotions with hormones. There are exceptions in all cases, even mine. I believe that the most intimate act two people can do is kiss. A kiss from someone who you're really vibing with is something that can last forever. On the other hand, a kiss from a spontaneous random can be pretty pointless and trife. Don't say you ain't done it before. We all have. lol. There are many intimate acts, not just sex; I'm a guy and even I know that.